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Summer Fun and Perimenopause: The Magic of Saying No

perimenopause in summer saying no Jun 03, 2024

Ah, summer! Warmer weather, longer days – a time for soaking up the sun and enjoying the outdoors. But for women in perimenopause, the season's social whirl can feel overwhelming. Hot flashes intensify in the heat, and the constant activity can leave you drained.

So how do you navigate summer social events while prioritizing self-care? Here's the secret weapon: the power of saying no.

It's Okay to Decline

Feeling pressured to attend every cookout and pool party? Don't! It's perfectly okay to politely decline invitations if you need some downtime. Here's the truth: your friends and family will understand.

Plan Your "Yeses" Strategically

Instead of spreading yourself thin, choose events that truly excite you. Is there a specific pool party you've been looking forward to? Great! Then politely decline others and focus on enjoying the one you've chosen.

Embrace the Afternoon Nap

The summer heat can be brutal. Feeling sluggish? Don't be afraid to take an afternoon nap! A short recharge can make a world of difference. Remember, staying hydrated is also crucial. Drink plenty of water throughout the day, especially before heading outdoors.

Self-Care is Key

Communicate your needs! Explain to friends and family that you might need breaks during outings. Suggest alternative activities that are more low-key, like an evening picnic in the shade or a bonfire under the stars.

Create Your Own Summer Traditions

Don't just follow the crowd! Create relaxing summer rituals you enjoy. This could be reading a book in a hammock, having a solo morning coffee on the porch, or taking a refreshing evening walk.

Remember: Summer is for You

Summer should be a time to enjoy yourself, but it's also a time to prioritize your well-being. Saying no to some things allows you to say yes to others – the ones that truly fill your cup and make you feel your best.

Perimenopause and Self-Care

Perimenopause, the years leading up to menopause, can bring hot flashes, night sweats, fatigue, and mood swings. It's during this time that self-care becomes even more important. Saying no allows you to set boundaries and prioritize activities that nourish you, not drain you.

Start Small with Saying No

Saying no can be hard, especially if you worry about what others might think. Start small! Decline an extra shift at work or politely turn down social engagements that don't excite you.

Be Polite But Firm

You don't need to justify your "no." A simple "thanks for the invite, but I don't think I can make it work" is perfectly fine. With close friends, you can be honest. Say something like, "It sounds fun, but I'm just not feeling up to it right now."

Offer Alternatives

Sometimes, a "no" can be softened with a "yes" later. Can't meet for dinner? Suggest grabbing coffee or doing a "mom date" another time.

Self-Care Beyond Saying No

Self-care is more than just saying no. Here are some simple things you can incorporate into your daily routine:

  • Prioritize sleep: Aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night.
  • Move your body: Find an activity you enjoy, whether it's walking, yoga, swimming, or dancing.
  • Practice relaxation techniques: Deep breathing and meditation can significantly reduce stress and anxiety.
  • Nourish your body: Focus on whole, unprocessed foods.
  • Connect with loved ones: Surround yourself with supportive people who make you feel good.

Small changes can make a big difference. Taking time for yourself is not selfish, it's essential. By setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and embracing the power of no, you can navigate perimenopause and summer with more grace and ease. So go ahead, enjoy the sunshine, but remember to also listen to your body and prioritize your well-being. You deserve it!

 

Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, frozen in all the to-do's, and defeated?

Are you ready to take the plunge and turn the focus that you give to everyone else around inward?

You are meant for great things. 

It's time to fill your own cup. 

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